How to Feel Great Naked: Sexual Confidence Tips for Men

Are you a man who's dealing with low self esteem and sexual insecurity? 

If so, I'm happy to tell you that there are plenty of things that you can do to feel more confident in the bedroom!

The reality is that staying intimate after years of being together takes more than love; it takes courage. And I'm talking about the courage to keep getting naked because, over the years, our bodies have changed, and we're not always happy about how we look. 

And this is something that we hardly ever talk about for men.

That's what I want to cover in this blog post today: body and sexual confidence for men. 

Plus, I'm also going to be talking about what women find attractive so you can feel more confident and have hotter sex without even changing a single thing about your body.

Dangers of The Comparison Game

We all know that over time, our bodies change. Weight can go up and down, muscle tone shifts, hair appears and disappears, and penises, well, they have a mind of their own. 

All of that is natural, but it doesn't help us feel better about ourselves when we are so busy comparing, right? 

So you might find yourself comparing your body to your friends or to guys down the gym or people you see in movies or in porn. 

You know, broad shoulders, big biceps, six-packs, and massive penises. 

After all, these men demonstrate the ideal of masculinity, right?

When you are bombarded by these ideas and images of what an ideal male body looks like, then it's really common to feel that you're falling short, even if you are doing just fine.

But the thing is that many of these things simply aren't the reality. Take porn, for example. Did you know studies show that male porn stars have a bigger penis than the average male? So, comparing yourself to them is simply unfair. 

Also, often in movies, males wear makeup or are airbrushed to appear more toned and younger than they really are. Again, comparing yourself to them isn't fair. 

Instead, you need to get to know and accept yourself as you really are. 

Because that will allow you to show up and express yourself in the bedroom, and that is the answer to hotter sex.

So, where do we start on this journey towards body and sexual confidence? 

Well, let's be honest, that's a very big step. Going from feeling really insecure to feeling really confident in your body is an enormous leap and won't just happen overnight. 

And what we want to try and do instead is to take a step towards something called body neutrality. This is where instead of focusing on how your body looks and how it doesn't look, you're going to start to shift your focus to what it can do. 

You do not have to love every part of your body every day. In fact, I don't know that there are many or any humans that feel that way.

Instead, you're going to start to respect your body for what it is and what it does, and in so doing, separating your idea of how you look from your idea of your worth as a person. 

The reality is that there's more to you than your body! 

In many ways, your body is capable of bringing you so much more pleasure than simply sexual pleasure. It can help you experience many cool things, emotions, and connections.

Once we start to make that shift, everything will feel a little bit more in perspective.  

So, let's look at this from a woman's perspective before we start to get into actions that you can actually take to start moving yourself towards neutrality and acceptance.

What Do Women Find Sexy? 

Well, I asked myself, and as a woman, I had some thoughts on this. ;)

You know what I find sexy? Confidence. 

And many other people agree with me that confidence is an extremely attractive trait.  

• It's about how you carry yourself. 

• The energy that you bring into a room. 

• Your willingness to be present and playful. 

All of those things are far more important than a six-pack. 

But you won't find me six pack shaming either. Every single kind of body can be appreciated and admired and is worthy of being loved. Yep, yours too. 

So, if women find confidence sexy, what can you do when it comes to building confidence and, as a result, increasing sexual satisfaction? Let's jump into it!

How to Build Your Body and Sexual Confidence as a Man

You can follow these tips to build your confidence and, as a result, enhance your sexual relationship to the same level as during the honeymoon phase! By following these tips, you can increase your confidence and your wife's sexual desire towards you. It's a win-win. 

1. Sexy Undressing

One of the simplest ways to boost sexual confidence for men is by turning undressing into a meaningful and intentional experience. Often, we overlook this act, especially in long-term relationships, but it holds a lot of potential for connection and confidence.

Undressing is often rushed or done absentmindedly, especially when you've been together for a long time. You've seen each other's bodies countless times, so it can seem like there's no need to make a big deal about it.

But I'm encouraging you to think differently and to embrace undressing as an opportunity for intimacy and fun.

• Try mixing things up. You can undress slowly, making each movement deliberate and sensual, or take everything off quickly for a playful, spontaneous vibe. 

• Maybe put on some music and create a little show while making eye contact with your wife. 

• Another option is to undress each other, turning the moment into a collaborative, intimate experience.

By focusing on how you undress, you're sending the message that you value the moment and your partner's attention. It shifts the dynamic from "We've seen each other a million times" to "This is me, and I'm worth noticing."

Let me share a quick story to show why undressing can be so important for confidence. 

My husband, Gavin, and I once went to a nudist beach. I was excited to be there and didn't mind being naked. However, I insisted we arrive early because I wanted to undress before anyone else arrived.

In other words, I wasn't as worried about being seen naked—I was more concerned about the act of undressing in front of others. 

This highlights how vulnerable undressing can make us feel. It takes courage to take off your clothes, especially in front of your wife, but that vulnerability is where true confidence starts. 

2. Hang Out Naked

Spending time naked might sound simple, but it's a great way to become more comfortable with your body. 

You can start small—spend more time in the shower touching and acknowledging your body, not in a sexual way, but in an accepting and mindful way. 

Notice how your body feels without judgment. 

When applying lotion after your shower or brushing your teeth, try doing it naked. Sleep naked or walk around your house if you're comfortable. But maybe skip this if your kids or neighbours are around, haha!

The point is to stop thinking of being naked as such a big deal and gradually let go of negative body perceptions. If you feel up to it, spend some time looking in the mirror naked. 

Instead of hyper-focusing on flaws, keep looking until you notice parts of yourself you appreciate. Maybe it's your neck, your shoulders, or your hair. This practice can help you see past any negative body image and start embracing yourself more fully.

3. Positive Affirmations

While spending time in front of the mirror, you might want to try positive affirmations. 

For some, these affirmations like "I am strong," "I am worthy," or "I deserve to feel good" can be a powerful way to counteract negative thoughts. 

It may feel uncomfortable at first, but affirming yourself can help shift your mindset over time.

I've decided to record an audio guide with positive affirmations to help you feel good in your body, especially during moments of vulnerability or insecurity. 

You can grab the Body Confidence Audio Guide here for FREE. The idea is that you deserve to feel confident and empowered, and this guide can help you on that journey.

4. Move Your Body

Another way to connect with and appreciate your body is through movement. Whether it's dancing, swimming, running, stretching, or any physical activity you enjoy, moving your body helps you feel its strength and flexibility. 

This isn't about fitness goals or changing the way your body looks. Instead, it's about experiencing the joy of movement and appreciating what your body can do.

Even if you have physical limitations or feel frustrated by what your body can no longer do, focus on the present and what you can enjoy. 

By connecting with your body through movement, you can shift the focus away from appearance and toward the pleasure of feeling your body in motion.

5. Be Present During Intimacy

When you're in the bedroom, and feelings of insecurity creep in, try to shift your focus away from your appearance and performance.

Instead, concentrate on being fully present with your partner. You can bring immense pleasure to both yourself and your partner by focusing on connection rather than self-consciousness. 

Having better sex often comes down to being fully present and connected to your wife.

And remember, you don't need to be focused on sexual performance or even rely on your penis to enjoy and give pleasure. Rather, focus on emotional intimacy, and sexual pleasure will follow. 

6. Embrace Self-Care

Lastly, simple acts of self-care can go a long way in boosting your confidence. 

Moisturising your skin, grooming, and wearing clothes that make you feel good can all positively impact how you feel about yourself. 

Taking care of your body is a way of respecting it, and that respect will shine through in how you carry yourself. As a result, this will boost your confidence both in and out of the bedroom.

Remember, Sexual Confidence for Men Is a Journey

Feeling confident in your body, especially in intimate moments, is a process. If you're ready to start building that confidence, be sure to download my FREE Body Confidence Audio Guide for some affirmations to help you along the way. 

Remember, you deserve to feel good about yourself, and sexual confidence starts with embracing who you are, just as you are.

Doing so won't only help you feel better about yourself, but it can also lead to good sex—no, scratch that— GREAT sex and increase your overall relationship satisfaction.