Frustrated man struggling with sexless marriage and self-pleasure guilt

Sex wasn't supposed to be like this.

Somewhere along the way, what you expected from sex - and what you actually got - stopped lining up.

You thought marriage would mean regular, loving sex.

But, your wife seems disinterested.

She shuts you down.

And bristles at your touch.

You still want it.

But that want now feels like a problem.

Like you’re needy. Or pervy. Or doing something wrong for even having the urge.

You’ve read the books.

Tried the communication exercises.

Tried to “meet her needs first” like the experts say.

You’ve been patient. Kind. Even silent.

But nothing’s changed.

And it's been months (even years).

Man feeling undesired and anxious about sexual performance

So you retreat

& try to solve it alone.

Lonely man dealing with delayed ejaculation and porn reliance

You stop initiating.

You feel guilty for watching porn.

You try to go without.

Then give in.

Then feel even more ashamed.

You think: maybe it’s me.

You’re rushing to finish, or can’t finish at all.

You’re soft when you want to be hard, or hard when no one’s around.

You’ve started to feel… undesired.

Unwanted. Like a man with no place to put his desire.

You want something real. Not just sex, but connection.

And if you can’t get that from someone else right now, then maybe - just maybe - it’s time to get it from yourself.

You don’t need to give up on your sexuality.

You don’t need to numb it, fix it, or feel ashamed for having it.

What you need is a new relationship with your desire.

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Unlock a growing Library of erotic audios -

designed to help you reconnect, explore, and evolve.

🎧 Guided JOI sessions to explore new techniques and build deeper awareness

📖 Erotic stories to spark your imagination and turn-on

🌅 Morning rituals to start your day confident, grounded, and charged

🛏️ Sexual meditation practices for calming your mind and connecting with your body

🪄 Kink and fantasy exercises to safely explore your edges

🎙️ Pleasure training tools like breathwork, prostate play, stamina skills, and more

For only $9/month. No cringe. No group chats. Just a quiet way to feel good again. Cancel anytime.

You don’t have to hide anymore

You might be carrying things that no one around you understands.

Like…

👉 You want to feel desired - not tolerated

👉 You’ve felt more seen by a stranger than in your own marriage

👉 Maybe your cock has changed from surgery, age, or just life. And it’s left you feeling a bit lost.

👉 You’re scared that something is wrong with your desire - because it doesn’t fit the script

👉 You’ve chatted with women online - maybe old friends, maybe strangers

👉 You’ve thought about having an affair… or already crossed that line

👉 You’ve tried OnlyFans or cam sites - because even transactional attention felt better than being invisible

👉 You’ve had (or are curious about) sexual experiences with men - not because you’re “changing teams,” but because you crave touch, connection, and real human attention

Here’s the truth:

👉 Your body is allowed to want.

👉 Your story is valid.

👉 And your pleasure is worth exploring - on your terms.

All this is… is a quiet yes to yourself.

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